Dear OK Cupid

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Dear Trans Women – Lesbians are females. We don’t want sex with Males.

That’d be you all.

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138 responses to “Dear OK Cupid

  1. Reblogged this on Privilege Denying Tranny and commented:
    LOL!! Awesome

  2. For someone who loathes defining people by their birth genitals you do spend a lot of time defining people by their birth genitals.

  3. Um, no. Sorry.

    You do know it’s only men who say “birth genitals,” right?

    Sorry about your dick.

  4. Wow, really gross transphobic behaviour. I’m embarrassed, really. I don’t see why it’s necessary to bully an already oppressed minority.

  5. Lesbians are an oppressed minority. Men who insist they are lesbians and expect us to date them engage in harassment of Lesbians. They should BTFO.

    http://bugbrennan.com/2013/01/02/dating-in-the-pomo-world/

    • There are far fewer transsexual women than there are cissexual lesbians in this world. You’re relentlessly bullying (already incredibly oppressed) minorities for openly expressing themselves because you’re too inept to comprehend their gender identitiy. You should be fucking ashamed of yourself.

    • I am sorry. Are OK Cupid Trans people pounding down your door? Are they wielding torches and crying for you to be brought to the square where you will be tied to chair and force fed a white table cloth meal while they sit across from you and share stories of their childhood?
      You are not interested in Trans lesbians, put that on your profile and move on.

  6. Way to be grossly transphobic.

  7. The amount of bigotry and shameless ignorance here makes me sad.

  8. They’re not “scamming” anyone. Each one of them openly admits to their transsexuality, and describes themselves as lesbians because they identify as female. You just can’t hold back that transphobia, can you? You’re as backwards as a traditionalist.

    • Transgender people are conservative. And lesbians don’t want to date men.

      • Transgender people are conservative?
        I have known several lesbians to date trans women. Men-woman, and women who identify or became men. I also know a couple who is a gay man and a lesbian who have been married many years happily in love. One lovely girl I know who identifies somewhere between a girl and a boi is a sucker for full opp trans boi’s. People are not so easily shoved into neat little boxes of behavior.
        The LGBTQ community is diverse. It only becomes a stronger community when they accept this diversity. Anyone who is not Cis-gendered and heterosexual have enough obstacles in their life without in fighting in and hate in the community. Spreading hate against Trans people only empowers heterocentric society even more.

      • An ideology that reduces being female to an idea in a man’s head is hateful to women. Read Sheila Jeffreys

  9. You actually call yourself the “Gender Atheist?”

    All of these women are very open about their past and transition. If any cis-gendered lesbians don’t feel comfortable with that, then all they have to do is move on.

    Are you going to start calling out transmen that identify as gay?

  10. Wait what? Man this is hateful.

    • I agree, it’s hateful for Men to troll Lesbians for sex. Indeed, it’s triggering for many Women and deeply offensive to a group of Women (Lesbians) who are criticised relentlessly by heteronormative culture.

  11. so you assume that transwomen are trolling lesbians for sex. What about the transwomen who are uncomfortable using their bits? What about the transwomen who already have surgery? What about the transwomen who are looking for an actual relationship, somebody to grow old with? Or I guess that´s not possible according to your world view.

    Do you personally know each and every transwoman? Do you actually know that they´re just “trolling for sex”? Or does it not matter to you to get to know somebody. Better to just stereotype them and throw them into a box.

  12. I’ll just sit here and laugh because you are spending your time trolling OKCupid… Going to hit up HotorNot soon? Its good you found a hobby keeping the interwebz a hostile place for trans woman… Rather than you know… join trans people who have been asking OKC to add a ‘Trans’ notation for an account so folks can opt to never ever see those profiles… Keep up the good fight. Doing some super important work here cathy – super.important!!

  13. You’re so presumptuous about my gender, too. I created my WordPress yesterday and haven’t even formally stated my identity yet, but for the record, I’m a transwoman. I almost feel sympathetic, but your mindlessly hateful nature nullifies any possibility of that. You should just leave WordPress before you have a synaptic overload (your cortex doesn’t strike me as being very complex).

  14. Most of these profiles openly state that they are transgendered. A FAAB lesbian can choose for herself if she is interested in transgendered women. That is not YOUR choice to make and never will be. It’s very sad that you have choose to spend your time trying to make these women miserable for nothing that affects you. I can only think that you’re very sad, lonely or angry at yourself or others, and I hope that one day you can reconcile those feelings and try to help people rather than ridicule and hurt them.

  15. *slow clap* Bravo.

    Please, do keep wasting your time on fruitless pursuits. The rest of humanity will advance without you.

  16. Ooh, you wont consider me as a lesbian until I get gender reassignement surgery? Ok then, I won’t consider you a girl until you bear your own children.

    • No, I won’t consider you a lesbian even after you get your dick chopped off.

      How you consider me doesn’t chance the reality of my female body, my female socialization and my female reproductive organs.

  17. What a hateful waste of humanity you are. It breaks my heart really. F**king pathetic.

  18. Cathy you are awesome! Don’t let those doods get you down!

    • Everyone should just give up now. Arguing with a radfemme is fruitless – reasoning with them is impossible. They have about as much wit as a rotten cactus. Luckily their “movement” will never surpass (in both size and significance) a secluded group of pretentious misanthropes.

  19. This is sad, mean, and unfair. Transwomen ARE women. If you don’t want to date a person, then don’t. Leave the transwomen alone. They get shit on enough by everyone else, why do you want to add to their pain?

    • Elizabeth, Transwomen are MEN, and it’s deeply offensive to LESBIANS (women who desire sexual relationships with other WOMEN) to be continually bombarded with Men and their stories about their penises. We don’t give a shit. They are MEN.

      Repeat after me – Penis is MALE. Lesbians want SAME-SEX relationships.

      Transwomen shit on WOMEN and LESBIANS with their porny bullshit. I am comfortable with my position. I don’t know how you fools live with yourselves without taking hot showers 8 times a day to get this porny bullshit off of you.

  20. It’s funny, really. It thinks it speaks for all lesbians – ever. I enjoy the humor of it, seeing that all of the lesbians I’ve had the pleasure of knowing in my life are supportive of Tran*men and women, and have no issue what-so-ever using the proper pronouns and seeing them as their true gender.

    This is the same stupidity used against other minorities. Treat it like it’s wrong; Bash it; Spread humiliation; Pretend some threat exists.

    I think someone needs a big trans* hug! Watch out, though! You seem obsessed with my genitals, and I’m not a fan of them myself.

    • I am guessing most of those Lesbians are lying to you, because they are afraid of what will happen to them when they acknowledge that they don’t actually think you’re a woman.

      The only people obsessed with genitals is transwomen. You should all fuck each other.

      • Wow! Impressive logic. Such usually doesn’t come from you phobic type.

        Sorry, but nope. I like how you assume so much about so many groups of people, though. It shows how accepting a person you are. A true, feminine display of beauty, too! I love you… In fact, I think you’re sexy. (Too bad! I’m one of those transwomen you hate so much.)

        Try harder, dear! Try much harder. You are failing the Rick Roll generation.

      • What a shock. Man uses sexual harassment to intimidate women.

        THAT NEVER HAPPENS.

      • Haha! Oh, how silly you are. You make me laugh, too. Cool.

        …Oh, but that’s not a good laugh. It’s more like a, “Oh! Look how cute that untamed fool is. Fun to watch, but it’s just sad, really.”

        It’s OK. I think you would make a perfect man, by your standards. Here, you call me the wrong pronouns, and I’ll call you the wrong pronouns in return. We can make it a game!

        Man, you are a funny dude! I had a friend like you once – - when I was 12 years old. Don’t worry, though! He eventually grew up, and so will you. It just takes more time for some people.

      • Um, you calling me the wrong pronouns doesn’t have the same effect on me. Because I am actually female. Have a nice day!

  21. How transphobic, btw being a lesbian is based on sexual orientation if you identifiy your gender as a “woman” a your sexual orientation is for a “woman” Ta Da! your a lesbian. It is closed minded 2nd wave “so called” feminist that keep people who try to express themselves as who they really are in the closet. The only pretender I see is the one who is “delegating” what it is to be something that is as simple as just being. I bet someone like you also has a beef with bisexuals too, they are “pretending”.

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  23. Elizabeth:

    From Paul McHugh Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. (Maybe you’ve heard of it.)

    “(,,,) adult males who wish to surgically alter themselves to appear anatomically female fall into two main groups: (1) “conflicted and guilt-ridden homosexual men”[26] and (2) “heterosexual (and some bisexual) males who found intense sexual arousal in cross-dressing as females”.[27] McHugh, had several other impressions: First, “they [the transgendered individuals] were little changed in their psychological condition. They had much the same problems with relationships, work, and emotions as before. The hope that they would emerge now from their emotional difficulties to flourish psychologically had not been fulfilled”.[28] Second, they expressed little interest in and seemed indifferent to babies or children (typically female interests).[29] Third, they came off as caricatures of the opposite sex.[30]”

    Men are not women Elizabeth. Have a nice day.

  24. Hey guys. LESBIANS DON’T WANT TO FUCK YOU. The ones that say they do are afraid of your verbal abuse or are completely fucking brainwashed. I would feel incredibly insulted and violated trying to meet a woman online only to find out its a man claiming to be a lesbian woman. Thats fraud. I don’t like penis and I don’t like fake “vaginas.” either. I like real women, not men who impersonate women. The day you stop invading womens spaces is the day we stop calling you out on it. Until then, get used to it.

  25. You certainly do live up to the lawyers’ reputation of being a blood sucking leech Brennan.

    You’re nothing more than a parasite on the LGBT movement trying to justify your bigotry in an environment meant to provide equality for oppressed people.

    I’d say you should be ashamed of yourself, but that’s not in the definition of narcissism.

  26. Wow if this isn’t offensive! What this is suggesting is that trans women cannot be lesbians? **NEWS FLASH** I’m a post op trans woman with a fully functional vag and I’m only interested in women. That doesn’t make me a man, a man in a dress, a fake, a poser, a molestor, or anything other than a woman born with a birth defect.

  27. Dude…if you want to convince anyone of your viewpoint besides the people who already agree with you, maybe you shouldn’t fill the page with a giant friggin’ axe.

  28. Maybe you should read the page called “what is that big ax.” Feminism isn’t your strong suit, huh?

  29. Brennan you really are a world class knob. Seriously give it up ya monkey. Your just making a fool of yourself and disgracing cis woman everywhere. No one takes you seriously anymore. Do something constructive with your life. Collect cats, build a bridge we dont care. Meh!

  30. thetranstruth

    The use of transphobia and transmisogyny are offensive. If some people are hateful/angry/intolerant/bigoted then call them that. Specializing a phobia that is not a phobia is not the solution to this problem any more than the appropriation of misogyny into transmisogyny is.

    There are legal definitions of woman and man according to the laws of each country and sometimes the states or provinces in each country. If the law recognizes someone as a man or a woman, policing after it based on subjective interpretations of one’s own values or beliefs isn’t likely to get the law changed to suit your values or beliefs. Changing the law requires active political lobbying/rallying/demonstrations and the garnering of some political currency.

    The radfems of the 70′s had garnered a lot of political currency and spent much of it on establishing policies that were exclusionary to trans* identified persons. Many of those people suffered tremendously without housing/shelter/medical care/disability benefits/etc. The basic ability to survive was deprived of so many. After 30 years of those policies, some women and men sought to change those circumstances and women who were actively working in the feminist movement as well as those women running women’s shelters were consulted to establish policies for the protection of trans* identified persons. This is technically not an invasion of women’s space but an invitation to access it for survival.

    There exists a legal definition of transsexual and what rights and privileges are to be afforded to them and how.

    There is no legal definition of gay or lesbian or homosexual, though there is an implied understanding under the law of what those terms mean but no definition as to who can or can’t identify, in the legal sense, as to who can or can not identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual. The LGB identity based on sexual preference is completely subjective according to the law.

    Perhaps Ms Brennan, it would suit you to help establish a legal definition of of such terms as gay, lesbian, and bisexual and attach legal qualifications as to who may legally identify accordingly? Or possibly it would suit you to work towards changing the legal definition of man and woman in our country?

    I’m just at a loss as to how calling out people on okcupid is an effective means to accomplish anything other than venting your anger and possibly having it increased by with all the comments disapproving of your posts. I looked at the posts you cited and it seems to me that no woman would be duped by any of them into thinking they are someone a woman would want to date.

    The thing I haven’t discerned about you Ms Brennan is this: do you claim that men who identify as women and go through the legal/medical requirements to be a woman due not in fact experience a loss of male privilege? It seems to me that they do experience a loss of male privilege. Could you clarify this for me according to your beliefs. I think that any man who would voluntarily surrender his male privilege and male gentalia would be encouraged to do so by as many women as possible like yourself. More to the point, if a man choose to become a second (or realistically lower than that) why wouldn’t you encourage him to so so? I mean heck, yah, you want to be a woman and surrender your privilege in exchange for being paid 3/4ths of what a man makes or less, to be viewed as sexual prey by men and male violence, to be considered less capable than men (and women quite often as well). I’m surprised you aren’t at the forefront of requiring legal sterilization as a requirement for transitioning to keep them all from reproducing and passing on their defective genes that cause them to behave the way that they do, given your stated opinions of them.

    Lastly, I wonder how many times okcupid is going to tolerate your reports before they close your account or block your ip address from their site. Surely, better options exist that are more fruitful to your stated aims than this?

    Your thoughts?

    • I think you make a lot of assumptions, and I think we do not have common goals. Gender is a mechanism of women’s oppression. Transgender people uphold that mechanism. And Lesbians have borne the brunt of this oppressive ideology for far too long.

  31. thetranstruth

    Ok, I apologize for my assumptions. Could you fill me in or direct me to a web resource that explains how transgender people uphold the mechanism of women’s oppression? Or even recommend a book that details this? I would love to know more and understand more on that topic.

  32. thetranstruth

    Thank you!

  33. Hi Cathy,
    It seems to me that your main premise is that transgender people are delusional and not in their right mind.

    OK…
    If we go with this premise as a statement of fact then the trangender population is mentaly ill. (I do not believe thi,s but let us go with the thought experiment.)
    If transgender people are mentaly ill and unlikely to ever let go of the delusions they are under then trying to get them to change is an exercise in futility.

    What other mental illness is it politicaly correct to shame a person for haveing the mental illness?
    Would we abuse a psychotic for being psychotic? Or a person with multiple personalities?

    We do not abuse the mentaly ill for their illness. It is inhumane. We can not say to a mentaly ill person “just get better! You are a terrible person for being mentaly ill. I hate you for your mental illness”. To do so would garner the ire of society.

    Society at large sees the transgender as a mentaly ill person.
    Is this the Cathy that you want the world to see you as? The woman who abuses mentaly ill people?

    Have a good day,
    CPB

    PS: I do not believe or support the notion that transgender people are mentaly ill in any way shape or form. But I do believe that if someone genuinly believes that someone is mentaly ill, then that person who sees mental illness should be humane and not abuse the person they view as mentaly ill. It is just common human decency.

  34. Actually I am bisexual with a preferance for men. Not exactly heterosexual last I checked.

  35. OK way to derail. My relationship status has nothing to do with my original statements that you see trans as mentaly ill yet you abuse them.
    What is the fix here anyways?
    Do you see this post as a genuine vehicle to advance your agenda or is it just blowing some steam?

    I do not frequent dating sites and have no clue as to the proper proticals. I am married happily and have no need to date.
    But I fail to see how you have a valid objection when the transgender people you are not willing to date have publicly stated they are transgender. They are being upfront and honest about their transition status. You do not have to date any one you do not want too. If you do not wish to date or have sex with a trans* person, then don’t do it. It is that simple.

    Certainly you are unlikely too get the results you claim you want using these tactics.

  36. I am contacting your high school!

  37. Wow, trans, and you wonder why we have a problem with you?

  38. This thread is so appalling and close-minded. I embrace such a diverse group of friends ranging in sexuality and gender identities. I can’t imagine feeling so hateful

  39. and believe me when I say I have embraced a lesbian or few ;)

  40. Why assume things about me?

  41. apparently not to your time and place.

    • Thank god for that.

      • I’ve read your blog very thoroughly. I had no idea that women were so downtrodden and oppressed. Almost helpless, really.

        I’m here to help. I have a kitchen that needs help and some socks that need mending. Why don’t you visit and fill these important needs? That way you, as the delicate, helpless flower that you are will be protected and cared for.

        Seriously, you make women – all women – sound like total idiots who are fundamentally incapable of functioning as human beings. The idea that a man – even one who’s been surgically “disarmed” – represents some existential threat is to laugh.

        You’re free, of course, not to like trannies. You are free to discourage others from having sex with them – and yes, I don’t think it’s right to use social pressure either – but treating men and women like two alien species perpetually at war comes off as paranoid and self-hating.

        However, it’s your blog. I wish you well.

      • You too, lesbophobe!